Children should break free from the internet as soon as possible
If parents want to change their children’s Internet addiction, they must first change their children’s education methods.
Simple and rude education methods can neither properly guide children nor affect children’s mental health. It needs to be explained that there is no magic bullet in the world that can solve the problems faced by every parent.
You can only seat yourself according to the actual situation of your child.
[Suggestions and countermeasures]Three-step method to guide children to “get away” online and communicate with children gradually. First, from now on, do n’t say “how do you not study well” to children, “how can you go online all day?”Why are you so disobedient?”
Adolescent children’s self-awareness is increasing, and the accusations of change will arouse their rebellious emotions.
This will help your child sit down willingly and have an equal conversation with you.
The school is about to start soon, and it is not suitable to travel far away. Then go for a warm family outing. Remember to bring your family album.
If it is inconvenient to go out, you can also choose to have a conflict or take a walk in a park, green space and other places where people feel relaxed.
Third, don’t get into the subject right away.
You can take a look at the family album with the elderly and children at home, review the past happy times, then exercise, observe, play games together, and wait until the time is right before you speak.
Fourth, parents should also pay attention to the skills of communication with their children during the dialogue. They should be thinking about their children, standing in their children’s position and thinking about issues, and performing “flexible persuasion”.
If your child cannot accept it for a while, don’t worry, you can change the topic.
Remember, the child is willing to sit down and listen to you during the first communication.
Fifth, don’t expect a single heart-warming conversation to solve the problem. The next few weeks are the key.
Parents should continue to arrange similar “equality communication” for a period of time, restaurants, tea houses, theaters can do it.
Parents should work hard to understand the child’s inner world, understand what the child needs and think, and give the child spiritual care, understanding and comfort.
You can talk with your child about things that interest them and participate in activities that benefit the children.
Sixth, the purpose of communication is not to let children give up on the Internet.
Our goal is to let children know that their parents don’t understand themselves. They have changed their attitude towards themselves and their education methods.
Thereby re-establishing an equal and trusted communication channel between parents and children.
Seventh, the changes in parental education must be sincere, not on the surface or language.
If the children feel that their parents are pretending, they will find that they have encountered deception, and then their parents’ efforts will give up their past achievements, and the situation will even get worse.
The second step is to gradually reduce the time the child spends online. After the communication has achieved a certain effect, we can start to discuss some ways to reduce the time spent online with the child.
I have introduced several methods in the “Morning News”, but only require the operator to have a certain psychological foundation.
Here are some of the more common methods for parents: 1. Time management techniques and children agree on appropriate online time.
List the task of surfing the Internet on a piece of paper, and use a minute to estimate how long it will take.
Then find a small alarm clock to remind yourself to go offline.
If you find it difficult to use an alarm clock, you can install a small software to remind you at regular time in your computer, and open it at the same time when you go online.
2. The warning card method allows children to list the main problems and consequences of their addiction on the left and right sides of a piece of paper. The main benefits that the network may bring are to make a few more copies and post them where they are often visible, Always reminded.
3. The self-catalog method allows children to list this activity that was ignored after being addicted to the Internet, and sorted by the previous.
Ask your child to say what these activities mean to him, and let him choose between virtual and real world activities.
4, the goal management method allows children to spend 2 minutes before each time on the Internet to think about what to do on the Internet, list the specific tasks to be completed on the paper, complete one item, one off, and all off the Internet.
Don’t think this 2 minutes is superfluous, it will help your child save time roaming aimlessly online.
5. Contract of conduct law Parents can enter into a contract with their child and supervise it through a punishment system recognized by the child.
Once the child’s online behavior exceeds the scope of the contract, it is determined to execute according to the contract.
6. The suggestion method allows the child to replace some self-motivating maxims, or write some self-confidence words, conduct self-talk, and establish positive and positive cues, such as “I must be able to quit it”, “I am gradually making others”, etc.Wait.
Close your eyes and meditate three times a day before going to bed or after getting up.
7, the distracting method can work on the child’s specialty.Such as playing with children, playing chess, chatting and so on, so that children do not have time to think about things online.
8. Massage acupoint method: Use the thumb of the right hand to gently and clockwise massage the Neiguan acupoint on the left forearm (the Neiguan acupoint is placed with the wrist upward and three horizontally to the midline), and massage 36 times.
The reason is that, first, acupuncture at Neiguan point is effective for emotional stability.
Second, massaging 36 times plays a role in diverting focus.
Third, according to the habits of Chinese traditional culture, clockwise massage embodies the meaning of smoothness.
Massage 36 times has the meaning of six or six majors, which all have a great suggestive effect.
The third step is to consolidate the results of the previous stage. If the scale relies on the network to achieve a certain effect, parents should take the iron while they are hot and take further measures to consolidate the results.
There are some practices: 1. If you want to completely eliminate a bad behavior, the best way is to replace it with another good behavior.
If the child has successfully stayed away from the Internet, what can be used to fill up the time that is freed up by not surfing the Internet?
The first thing parents think of is that it is best to use it all for learning.
However, doing so may force the child back to the old way.
The correct approach is that we want to train our children for one or two healthy interests.
If the child comes home late for physical exercise, do n’t blame him, because the exhausted person does n’t have much energy to use on the Internet; if the child likes to draw, do n’t stop him, because if a person concentrates all his energy onIn terms of artistic creation, that will definitely help his future development; if the child is enthusiastic about social welfare, we must pay more attention to him, because it can help him learn how to integrate into the society and how to get along with others . 2, for the childFind support groups.
Sometimes mutual help and support from partners can be more effective than parental counsel.
You can let the children’s netizens supervise each other, and when the time comes, everyone will go offline.
Our parents can ask if there are any successful Internet addicts around your child.
If you have, you must lead them to become “psychological counselors” for their children.
3. Parents should also learn to go online.
Parents who do not understand the Internet cannot properly guide their children to surf the Internet and urge their children to surf the Internet healthily.
If you know how to surf the Internet, once you find that your child has a problem in the process of surfing the Internet, you can accompany the communication in a timely manner and take immediate measures.
● Parents should bravely assume the responsibilities of parenthood and actively seek equal communication with their children.
● If you feel unsure about talking to your child, one option is to get help from the school.
Practice has proved that it is best to find a psychological teacher for this type of problem.
You know, to persuade a person, the most important thing is to build trust and a good consultation relationship, and psychology teachers are experts in this area.
● If your child’s school does not have a psychologist, or if you are considering confidentiality, you can choose some psychological websites or hotlines targeted at teenagers.
● If you think your child’s problem may be more serious, general talk and consultation are not useful.
Then, please do not delay the child for the sake of face, you should not hesitate to take him to the psychological clinic.